Sam and Alex stand at a bus stop. The screen that shows the bus times is broken. Timidly Sam approaches Alex and asks when the next bus is. Alex checks an app. The next bus will arrive in twenty minutes.
Fifteen minutes later the app shows that the bus has been cancelled. “Why don’t we get dinner?” Alex says.
Rather timidly Sam responds. “Do you mean… a date?”
“Yeah,” Alex smiles.
Sam smiles back. “Sounds good. But how did you know?”
“That you were gay? I was just hoping.”
Did your mind have to rework that story a bit? I simultaneously hope so and hope not. Before that last line you were probably imagining them as a man and a woman. Maybe some of you had Sam as the man and some of you Alex. Now you know – they are either both men or both women.
There are some, very stupid people, who have a problem with this. They think that having gay characters is a statement. It really isn’t. If I write a story with a couple I’ll just write. Sometimes they’ll be heterosexual and sometimes not.
I’m not gay and I count myself lucky. Not because there is anything wrong with it but because of all the crap that gay people have to deal with. This would is difficult enough with stress from work, family, school, and relationships. We have to worry about bills, house cleaning, and food shopping. And that’s only when you consider the first world. Imagine if finding food was your biggest issue. So with all this going on don’t add to people’s problems by telling them they can’t love who they love.
Ultimately it doesn’t effect you. There are only two times it would:
- A gay person asks you out.
- You ask out a gay person.
To the former just tell them you’re not interested – just the same as anyone else you weren’t interested in.
And to the latter so what? A rejection for that reason is no different that one for any other reason.
And if you’re a heterosexual man sitting their thinking that being gay is a problem. Let me put it to you like this:
You don’t want to sleep with a man. Is it really so hard to believe that some women feel the same way?
Or to put it another way…
Some people are gay…. get over it.
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I just wanted to say that I have checked this post. I really have. Unfortunately my particular combination of dyslexia and dyspraxia makes it really hard for me to spot typos. Please enjoy and I’ll try not to make too many errors.