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Negativity

pexels-photo-54379.jpeg I have a tendency to be rather negative. This is a problem I have. This is a problem I need to deal with. This is a problem I don’t quite know how to deal with.

In the past I have Googled the subject of emotional suppression. Unless you hail from the planet Vulcan emotions are something that you have to deal with. At the time of that search I wanted to know if emotional suppression was really possible. And at times I still do.

My emotions are often in turmoil. I find that a good mood can be destroyed by something relatively minor. Being jump around happy is amazing – but sometimes wonder if sacrificing those times would befitness-jump-health-woman-56615.jpeg worth it if it meant never having to feel bad.

I know that, as humans, we can’t give up on emotion. Which means trying to deal with them.

To that end I have been meditating. I honestly can’t say with any certainty how much it has helped. I suppose the only way would be to have two identical mes and one meditates and the other doesn’t and then the data is compared – so bring on the cloning vat – set course for Sontar.

There is a lot of noise in every day life –   calm-daylight-evening-267967 both in reality and in our own minds. Thus taking a few minutes to stop and not think can surely only be beneficial. With the caveat if you’re in a car heading off a cliff you might want to try turning away.

Switching off completely is more difficult these days than it ever was in the past. Thanks to social media it is so easy to get sucked into you tube and Facebook. The former particularly is one I have a love/hate relationship with. I have found some wonderful videos on there but, on the other had, I probably don’t need to know 25 Things I Hate from some random person.

Creeping_butercup_close_800By the time you read this I will have returned from my holiday. I hope that I will feel refreshed and a bit better about myself.

I think the negativity of others is worthy of consideration too. If you have a friend who gets done on you and tells you you are useless then maybe you want to distance yourself from them. I am just a guy with a blog. There is no reason to take advice from me but a friend being negative is not going to help. It may even be in the guise of being helpful. Maybe they are telling you to be realistic about a dream of yours. In life there is no guarantee of success but in terms of ambition I refer you to the words of J Michael Straczynski: ‘Never Surrender Dreams.’

pexels-photo-261510Naturally writing is my dream. I can’t imagine not doing it. At times it is infuriating; when the image so clearly in my mind is so hard to translate into these little inefficient squiggles. At times it is annoying: when I don’t know something and have to get passed the 20th page on a Google search or find an expert. And sometimes I realise that the thing I need to know is something I will never understand.

Always though I know this is what I need to do. Not in a destiny way. Not in a ‘it was meant to be’ way. This is just something that has to be for me. I hope that many of you have that enjoyment of something.

For now I keep going. I try to be more positive and find the things that make me happy. And I will keep writing. Maybe one day I can make a living from it. That would be a great day indeed. But maybe not though – it is a compulsion, it is almost like a drug, but I must, as Joe Sisko says, ‘Write the words.’

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I just wanted to say that I have checked this post. I really have. Unfortunately my particular combination of dyslexia and dyspraxia makes it really hard for me to spot typos. Please enjoy and I’ll try not to make too many errors.

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Black Day

pexels-photo (1) Mental health. I have talked about this before on this blog and I dare say I will again. I know that this is a topic that is everywhere these days. And I know that sometimes the response is to ‘suck it up’ – or may be even a sentence that begins with the words ‘In my day…’

To show I have some rebellious qualities I’ll address the second one first.  Have you ever come across this sort of sentence: ‘In my day we just got one with it.’?

What I am driving it is the idea some people have that anxiety and depression are new things and that in the past people just got on with their lives. I am sure I have heard that argument somewhere. There is however a flaw in that logic.

As time goes on the human race changes and develops. I remember my Nana telling me a sad story. I think  pexels-photo-220197that this happened to a neighbour of hers…

Back in the days before having a phone in the house was normal an old man was having problems with his heart.

His wife quickly went up the road to call for an ambulance. Sadly by the time she’d returned the man had died. The point of this story is that today, with a phone immediately to hand, that man would have lived.

I remember once hearing an old woman reject the idea of having a mobile for emergencies. And said something to the effect of ‘Did emergencies not exist before mobiles?”

Yes they did. And sometimes people died.

So, by the same token, I think that depression, anxiety, and other mental issues have probably always existed. However it is my opinion that it isn’t that we have suddenly seen an explosion in mental health issues – rather we hear about them more. And we can do things to help people.

As the title of this post suggests I get bad days. There is no explanation for why. There are no big things changing from day-to-day – I just get days that are bad. On the bad days I just feel like everything is pointless and it is difficult to find happiness.

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The fact that feelings come and go make getting help more complex.

I had a temperamental ipod once and wanted to get it fixed. Being temperamental though meant I couldn’t guarantee that it would be malfunctioning on a day when I could get to the shops.

It is sort of the same with me. Right now I feel fine. Not great, not happy exactly, but not exactly sad either, just fine. I feel no need for help at the moment. However I think that those feelings could resurface at any moment and then I will feel that need of help again.

I have a week off work coming up and that should be a good time to evaluate myself. It will give me an opportunity to work a few things out. To work out what I need to be happy. pexels-photo-68721

I hope that you reading this now are happy. I hope that you are smiling. I hope you have someone special in your life.

And if you are going through some stuff, having bad days, I hope you can find your happiness.

I know there are some cliches in this post but it was something I needed to say. Have a wonderful Sunday and I’ll be back soon.

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I just wanted to say that I have checked this post. I really have. Unfortunately my particular combination of dyslexia and dyspraxia makes it really hard for me to spot typos. Please enjoy and I’ll try not to make too many errors.

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